Don’t judge me! We hear it all the time. A lot of the time it is said in jest. Maybe you overfilled your plate or ate something unhealthy and you notice everyone staring in your direction.
Obviously not what this post is about. A lot of people have a view that says “Don’t Judge Me”. Don’t hold me accountable for my words or actions. Let me do what I want and say what I want without any consequences or negative opinions. Just let me be who I am. What right to you have to be my judge?
I regret to inform you that everyone has the right if not an obligation to judge. If you don’t think so, then you are either a fool or a liar.
Do you have friends? How did you choose them? Have you ever stopped being someone’s friend because the relationship became toxic? What about a spouse or significant other? Did you simply take up with the first person available? I hope not.
What does the Bible say about not judging. It basically says if you judge another person, you must be willing to be judged by an equal standard. I’m very okay with this. That is the safeguard, the check and balance.
Now if you are getting the impression that we should all go around verbally passing judgement on each other then you haven’t a clue about what I’m talking about. Judgement should, for the most part, be absolutely silent and discreet. It should be that part of you that says “this is a bad idea”.
Ever interview for a job? What do you think is happening? Are you not being judged and are you not at the same time sizing up the person sitting across from you?
Being judgemental has been given a bad rap over the years. Just like with profiling, we are afraid to admit that we see others for who they really are. We pretend that we have no opinions about how others act. Much of this is a result of political correctness. By judging others we fear being labeled homophobic, racist, sexist, intolerant, discriminatory. Well I’m here to say enough of that.
If you want to walk around with blinders on pretending that you don’t have any idea when others are acting without any common sense you certainly have that right. If you are afraid to be honest or to point out hypocrisy that’s fine. But you are only fooling yourself.
America has become a very strange place. People are afraid to speak the truth because of whom it may offend or to be perceived as judgemental. Like I said, you don’t need to go around pointing out everyone’s faults. But be honest with yourself and others too.
Pretending everything is okay and acceptable does a disservice to everyone.