Who are you trying not to offend

I just read an article about a band who had their photo taken with a well known public figure. The point of the article was whether the band worried about having a photo with this person. Their response was that taking a photo with someone does not mean agreement with everything that person says.

This begs the question of how much time and effort we spend thinking or worrying about who we might offend. That seems like a lot of work though many in the public eye apparently are expected to pre-plan every action with that concern in mind. Like most people, I am surrounded by those with a completely different and often opposing world view.

The media asks mostly stupid questions when interviewing someone. Questions like, ‘Do you feel like having a photo taken with (pick anyone) could damage your image?’ The obvious answer is of course! We live in a time when offending anyone is as egregious an act as doing physical harm. So standing next to someone, taking a photo together, having lunch together, crossing the street at the same time, standing in the same line for anything at all makes you a part of that person’s agenda. Give me a break.

I could hear the voices saying ‘Well you certainly would not want to say or do anything that might be considered offensive’. I wouldn’t? Really? Offensive to who? If I was to assume that half of everyone disagrees with half of what I believe then half my time would have to be spent tailoring my words and actions to keep from being offensive. I’m exhausted by the thought.

The trick is to learn not to be offended at anything, even if it comes from someone whose effort is deliberately meant to provoke the maximum degree of offense imaginable. I would much rather have a very honest conversation and take a chance to offend or be offended than to have to adjust for much of societies’ lack of fortitude and inability to live in a world where not everyone is in agreement.

No one should need a safe space or require therapy because someone challenged their ideas. Nor should anyone have to justify his or her own beliefs. That isn’t to say that believing in something makes it right. Saying anything doesn’t make it right. But don’t expect everyone else to agree with you or to accept what you think as legitimate. And don’t get all bent out of shape because they disagreed with you.

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I’m judging you…and I hope you’re judging me.

Don’t judge me! We hear it all the time. A lot of the time it is said in jest. Maybe you overfilled your plate or ate something unhealthy and you notice everyone staring in your direction.

Obviously not what this post is about. A lot of people have a view that says “Don’t Judge Me”. Don’t hold me accountable for my words or actions. Let me do what I want and say what I want without any consequences or negative opinions. Just let me be who I am. What right to you have to be my judge?

I regret to inform you that everyone has the right if not an obligation to judge. If you don’t think so, then you are either a fool or a liar.

Do you have friends? How did you choose them? Have you ever stopped being someone’s friend because the relationship became toxic? What about a spouse or significant other? Did you simply take up with the first person available? I hope not.

What does the Bible say about not judging. It basically says if you judge another person, you must be willing to be judged by an equal standard. I’m very okay with this. That is the safeguard, the check and balance.

Now if you are getting the impression that we should all go around verbally passing judgement on each other then you haven’t a clue about what I’m talking about. Judgement should, for the most part, be absolutely silent and discreet. It should be that part of you that says “this is a bad idea”.

Ever interview for a job? What do you think is happening? Are you not being judged and are you not at the same time sizing up the person sitting across from you?

Being judgemental has been given a bad rap over the years. Just like with profiling, we are afraid to admit that we see others for who they really are. We pretend that we have no opinions about how others act. Much of this is a result of political correctness. By judging others we fear being labeled homophobic, racist, sexist, intolerant, discriminatory. Well I’m here to say enough of that.

If you want to walk around with blinders on pretending that you don’t have any idea when others are acting without any common sense you certainly have that right. If you are afraid to be honest or to point out hypocrisy that’s fine. But you are only fooling yourself.

America has become a very strange place. People are afraid to speak the truth because of whom it may offend or to be perceived as judgemental. Like I said, you don’t need to go around pointing out everyone’s faults. But be honest with yourself and others too.

Pretending everything is okay and acceptable does a disservice to everyone.

Are you secure in your convictions?

When you are insecure about what you believe, you have to convince others to agree. People in this category become angry when others don’t buy into what their selling. The more people they can convince to agree with them with nothing to back them up, the less proof they need.

This insecurity breeds contempt for anyone on the opposite of one’s political, social and even religious spectrum. As a Christian I am happy to share my faith with anyone who is interested. Whether you agree with my faith is not my concern. This is not true of other religions who feel you must be slaughtered if you are of another faith.

Another example of this is the climate change mythology. When Al Gore created this religious cult, he knew that it would make him lots of money. He has done a great job of convincing many that it’s a real thing. He is one heck of a salesman. I don’t have any problem with those who have bought into his ideas. I feel sorry for them as in my mind they are in the same category as flat-earthers and adults who still believe in the tooth fairy. But neither of these groups are out to force me to join them in their fantasies.

Apparently these folks are secure enough not to need my affirmation, which is rather funny when you think about it. You would be ridiculed for denying global warming but not for believing in a round earth. Figure that one out.

This is a short post but I hope it gives you reason to think about your own beliefs and conviction. Are you secure enough in them not to care what others believe? Or is anyone who disagrees with you cause for an argument or offense?

Empathy for the tiring life of a Social Justice Warrior.

I feel very sorry for SJWs and the politically correct. How exhausted must they be all the time? Imagine the effort it takes to constantantly carry a chip on your shoulder and remain in a perpetual state of offense. I couldn’t do it. I just don’t have the stamina or even the interest.

I cannot fathom the emotional energy one has to expend to, like Bruce Banner, aka the Hulk, always be angry.

Every time you engage in conversation you must be caught up on whatever should be on your list of the most popular sources of irritation. You always have to be defending the lifestyle choices of people you don’t even know and be upset with everyone else who does not condone those choices. Exhausting. Instead of just living your own life you have to be prepared to take issue with anything you see or hear that might be offensive to a total stranger.

As an SJW you cannot simply live your own life and enjoy it to the fullest, you must pay attention to the conversations of others to make sure you speak up in case you hear anything that might possibly be politically incorrect.

For example, take the girl who wore an Asian style dress to her prom. What number of people were offended by this? Or what happens if you see a white person wearing the hairstyle or clothing of another race? You’d have to say something, wouldn’t you? Or at the least even if you decided not to say anything, you had better be angry and post something on Twitter.

And what about making sure you attempt to patronize a business that has a set of values contrary to your own? If you are gay, why take the easy path to a bakery that appreciates your lifestyle when you can create grounds for a lawsuit by demanding service and acceptance from a devoutly Christian business?

Yes, the life of a SJW is difficult to say the least. They have to be caught up on all the latest potential faux pas by those of us not so aware. They must always be poised to point out insensitive comments.

SJWs must keep in mind all the possible gender descriptions so as not to offend aberrant behavior. I would need a notebook or some sort of reference manual to keep up with this. For the SJW, it’s an art. But it’s way too much work for me. I have to just keep offending people as a result of my laziness and ignorance.

Let me not forget that a social justice warrior must always remember to go nuts as the sight of a MAGA cap or at the mention of Donald Trump. I can’t imagine the effort I would have to put forth if I had to be offended every time someone switched the tv channel to CNN or mention Barack Obama.

Of course if you are an SJW you could not tolerate any black person with conservative values. You’d have to go through the trouble of burning all your Kanye West cds. After all, he betrayed the group identity by thinking for himself. As an ignorant non SJW, I tend not to be offended by such things but what a burden this must be for the politically correct.

I cannot leave out the awesome responsibility that SJWs have to perpetuate the notion of climate change. They must always be prepared to condemn and ridicule unbelievers such as myself. They have to be sure to make fun of me for not accepting the overwhelming “settled science”. At the same time they are juggling this with one hand the SJW must always be prepared to argue that unborn babies are not people but really trash to be ripped up and thrown away or maybe recycled. This is really a lot of work, jumping back and forth between the subjects of so-called reproductive rights and junk science. It makes me need a nap just talking about the responsibility.

Gee I almost forgot about the gun debate. The SJW must always be aware of the latest shooting incident. They must make sure anyone who supports the NRA is considered an accessory to the lunatic that pulled the trigger.

With all this burden and responsibility I don’t see how the SJW can make it through the day without several energy drinks. Trying to hold a job, go about the day’s business and deal with people like me sounds like more work than it’s worth but far be it from me to judge. I’m just a priviledged white male trying to be happy.

I do appreciate SJWs though. They provide an endless supply of opportunities for me to go out of my way to trigger them. Thanks again for all your hard work.