Celebrating the “Holiday”?

While we will never be certain of the date Jesus was born, everyone who celebrates December 25th as Christmas must realize and acknowledge the truth.  Just like all other birthdays, there is only one explanation for this one.

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We know it as Christmas but this takes nothing away from the fact that it is the birthday celebration of one man, Jesus Christ. We also celebrate other birthdays on a national level: Martin Luther King and George Washington.  Every president’s birth is recorded in history books.  On Facebook we all get lots of Happy Birthdays on our special day.  No one would begrudge anyone of a cake with candles, a favorite meal, and a gift or card on his or her birthday.  Google changes their logo but not to anything related to Jesus. A tree or Santa is the symbol of Christmas for the internet.

In workplaces there are often balloons and banners attached to the cubicle or desk of whose ever birthday it may be.  On Christmas Day, most people do not have to work even if they are alleged atheists. You never hear stories of people insisting on going in to work because they don’t believe in Jesus.

Yet, despite all of this recognition of the “Holiday” there are many who would fight and argue to remove manger scenes, references to Jesus and even the word Christmas itself from the celebration and turn it into something completely unrelated.

Seasons or Holiday Greetings is now the politically correct term for Christmas.  (More on political correctness in future posts.)

Every retailer enjoys the fruits of Christmas now starting even before Thanksgiving which also now has become a celebration of eating rather than thanking God for His blessings (more on that next November).  We give more honor to Halloween that Christmas, Thanksgiving or Easter.

Black Friday used to start the day after Thanksgiving when retailers could look forward to major profits. It’s long been forgotten that they owe their thanks to Jesus.

I wonder how many people would be okay if on their birthday instead of “Happy Birthday” they were greeted with “Seasons Greetings” or “Happy Holiday”.  Why not?  Society has done it to the birthday of Jesus.  What makes anyone else’s birthday so special and immune?  Is there anyone else in history who has had so much controversy besides this one?  Is there anyone else whose name causes so must debate and intolerance especially on his or her birthday?  Please name one.

Most children have made lists and will unwrap presents having no idea why?  For them it is toy replenishment day. That’s about it.  What a loss. They will watch Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer and adults will watch Hallmark Christmas specials but only a few will bother to remember the Star of Bethlehem and the Nativity.

Many will say that Christmas is a season, a time of good will and being cheerful and kind to one another.  It must evolve from the celebration of the birth of the Son of God and be made into something non-spiritual that breaks past the boundaries of religion and exclusion.  They will say that it must diversify and not offend anyone of another faith.  Try that out on your own birthday.

There is nothing wrong with sharing meals together, eating cookies and exchanging gifts. But for me and I hope for many others, December 25th will always be about His birthday.  Happy Birthday Jesus!

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Getting used to being alone

After today it will be three years of life as a….and I don’t like to say it….as a widower. The word is sad and foreboding. Am I becoming accustomed to this life without her? I suppose to some extent, I am. What is my other option?

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Tonight is the anniversary of the night she left to spent the rest of eternity with God. It is a new life for her, one that is quite beyond my comprehension but I know it has to be wonderful. Now that some time has passed since that awful time I’m learning to look at my situation in a different light and perspective.

Neither of us chose this new journey that we’ve embarked upon. Hers of course, is the one we will all eventually take. I’ve written enough about being sad and missing her. It’s time to stop writing that way. I’m pretty sure I’ve said all there is to say about that.

Life really is different and trying to embrace the positives without feeling guilty and as though I’m betraying her by being happy is a difficult thing. The alternative would be to stay miserable and sad and to wear it on my sleeve for all to see. It’s a way of proclaiming, look at me, I’m still grieving! But I’ve found that I don’t enjoy being around that person and I’m guessing that no one else does either.

If I’m being transparent, which I usually am, I always have the concern that I’ve become content without her. That somehow I’m glad for it. That I prefer it. It’s an uncomfortable though that I expect is not uncommon in my situation.  Do I like being alone? I like it as much as I did before I was ever married. I had no problem being single. I don’t have any problem with it now except that I expected to live out the rest of my life with her at my side.

It is as though I am two people. One is just a middle-aged single man, with grown up kids and grand-kids who has many years (I hope) ahead to enjoy life. The other is the man who lost his wife and doesn’t know how to let that go.  I walk with one foot in each life, switching back and forth between them.

Learning who I am now, at this new time in life is a challenge. I don’t require sympathy or condolence, maybe just understanding.

I’ve made changes. I have ideas about what I’d like my future to be. Nothing concrete, but some hopes. It really is a process. I guess all we can do is take life day by day. Since it really isn’t the end, it might be the beginning.

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